Post by Only Onus on Feb 17, 2022 5:31:31 GMT
I was pondering (as usual) and as usual the topic I was pondering was unity.
Most people when they think about unity, think along the lines of the phrase "All you need is love".
But is that really the extent of it?
Is love all it takes?
To have or feel actual love for every person that you encounter is a pretty big concept.
I'm not saying that it is unobtainable. But in today's judgmental world...
Maybe love is the ultimate answer, but it would be the ultimate goal as well.
The thing that was being forgotten was, the learning process.
We all can admit that there are things that we as a species need to "learn".
And just like math or reading we need to learn the basics first.
How do we learn how to love everyone? What's the first step?
What do we have to work with?
How about consideration?
Let's look at our real families.
There are some that you just don't care for or to be around.
But you will still give them basic considerations.
If you are both at a family gathering; You might make sure that you are not sitting next to them at meal time.
But, you would not deny them food. Do you see where I'm going with this.
Just like if your Mother; The woman who lovingly raised you. Feed you, wiped your tears away, and was always there.
Now imagine the absolute worst crime against another human you can.
And you find out that through the years she would on occasion commit that crime.
Not enough to get noticed or raise any suspicion, but like once a year, when she went out "with her friends".
Would you be able to totally turn your back on her? Would you still want her to be treated with respect?
Could you side with the strangers who were all saying to passably kill her?
Now have you given the same consideration as you would if you had heard a stranger had done the exact same things?
If you saw your best friends older brother (someone you know from childhood) sitting on the side of the street begging;
Would you just pass by as he looked you in the eyes? Would you throw him a dollar?
What consideration would you give him over the guy down the street?
You don't know either ones situation. Maybe the other is a good man who was lied about, and had his world ripped apart;
While your friends brother was someone who just never wanted to try.
The thing I'm trying to get at is: Maybe the first step is consideration. The whole "Do unto others" thing.
If you were hungry would you want someone to give you food? Or to spend $5.00 and buy you
a good heavy blanket because they CAN SEE your freezing to death. (Yep $5.00 and up at Goodwill).
Or how about that pair of shoes you just don't wear anymore? Or that old coat?
Here is the thing; You don't have to give it to them. Nope!
Just put the stuff in your car, get a friend to sit on the passenger side, pull of to the side of the road and have them throw it all out.
Then you can speed off as fast as you feel necessary without ever getting out of your locked car.
Look in your mirror and see the waving hands of gratitude.
"Do unto others", How about just considering their situation; Right now with no concern for how it happened?
Putting "yourself in their shoes". Thinking what they (or you) are thinking.
Things like; "Please don't just look at me, I'm starving. or "look down on me if you want, but please don't let me freeze.
These are the things "those people" are thinking when they look to you. And when they're not thinking those thoughts.
They are probably mentally beating themselves up more than you could ever want to.
How do I know? Because I was there. As a teenager; I lived in the stench, with the drunks and druggies.
Eating anything I could find that I didn't think would make me sick. And even then there were a few times when
I told myself that it was this or nothing. (No I'm not crying my eyes out right now)
At first you will be hoping for someone to "take you in" and really help.
But people "out there" quickly lose that hope. And they really don't expect anything like that.
Just a little something to help keep them alive. Why? They don't know. Most have given up.
So a tiny bit of comfort means a lot.
Yes; There were/are some that just don't want another life. They are the loud and aggressive ones. Proud to be intoxicated.
But the ones I'm talking about are the silent ones.
The ones who seem to just sit there. They usually look worse off than most of the others.
That's because they are the ones who have been beaten and stolen from the most.
Like dog's that have been beaten too much. When they get that blank look in their eyes;
You know they have given up on hope, love or any fraction of it.
You don't have to love "those people", most of them wouldn't know how to act, running away when you approach like some feral cat.
In fact you can even dislike them. They know they smell bad, that their cloths are dirty and their hair is matted.
But keep in mind; It might not be their fault!
Just don't let someone starve, or freeze to death when the inconvenience it will cause you is just that...
An inconvenience.
And maybe something as simple as being considerate, really is the first step to learning how
to love without judgement.
Just my thoughts.
Your Sibling
Only Onus
Most people when they think about unity, think along the lines of the phrase "All you need is love".
But is that really the extent of it?
Is love all it takes?
To have or feel actual love for every person that you encounter is a pretty big concept.
I'm not saying that it is unobtainable. But in today's judgmental world...
Maybe love is the ultimate answer, but it would be the ultimate goal as well.
The thing that was being forgotten was, the learning process.
We all can admit that there are things that we as a species need to "learn".
And just like math or reading we need to learn the basics first.
How do we learn how to love everyone? What's the first step?
What do we have to work with?
How about consideration?
Let's look at our real families.
There are some that you just don't care for or to be around.
But you will still give them basic considerations.
If you are both at a family gathering; You might make sure that you are not sitting next to them at meal time.
But, you would not deny them food. Do you see where I'm going with this.
Just like if your Mother; The woman who lovingly raised you. Feed you, wiped your tears away, and was always there.
Now imagine the absolute worst crime against another human you can.
And you find out that through the years she would on occasion commit that crime.
Not enough to get noticed or raise any suspicion, but like once a year, when she went out "with her friends".
Would you be able to totally turn your back on her? Would you still want her to be treated with respect?
Could you side with the strangers who were all saying to passably kill her?
Now have you given the same consideration as you would if you had heard a stranger had done the exact same things?
If you saw your best friends older brother (someone you know from childhood) sitting on the side of the street begging;
Would you just pass by as he looked you in the eyes? Would you throw him a dollar?
What consideration would you give him over the guy down the street?
You don't know either ones situation. Maybe the other is a good man who was lied about, and had his world ripped apart;
While your friends brother was someone who just never wanted to try.
The thing I'm trying to get at is: Maybe the first step is consideration. The whole "Do unto others" thing.
If you were hungry would you want someone to give you food? Or to spend $5.00 and buy you
a good heavy blanket because they CAN SEE your freezing to death. (Yep $5.00 and up at Goodwill).
Or how about that pair of shoes you just don't wear anymore? Or that old coat?
Here is the thing; You don't have to give it to them. Nope!
Just put the stuff in your car, get a friend to sit on the passenger side, pull of to the side of the road and have them throw it all out.
Then you can speed off as fast as you feel necessary without ever getting out of your locked car.
Look in your mirror and see the waving hands of gratitude.
"Do unto others", How about just considering their situation; Right now with no concern for how it happened?
Putting "yourself in their shoes". Thinking what they (or you) are thinking.
Things like; "Please don't just look at me, I'm starving. or "look down on me if you want, but please don't let me freeze.
These are the things "those people" are thinking when they look to you. And when they're not thinking those thoughts.
They are probably mentally beating themselves up more than you could ever want to.
How do I know? Because I was there. As a teenager; I lived in the stench, with the drunks and druggies.
Eating anything I could find that I didn't think would make me sick. And even then there were a few times when
I told myself that it was this or nothing. (No I'm not crying my eyes out right now)
At first you will be hoping for someone to "take you in" and really help.
But people "out there" quickly lose that hope. And they really don't expect anything like that.
Just a little something to help keep them alive. Why? They don't know. Most have given up.
So a tiny bit of comfort means a lot.
Yes; There were/are some that just don't want another life. They are the loud and aggressive ones. Proud to be intoxicated.
But the ones I'm talking about are the silent ones.
The ones who seem to just sit there. They usually look worse off than most of the others.
That's because they are the ones who have been beaten and stolen from the most.
Like dog's that have been beaten too much. When they get that blank look in their eyes;
You know they have given up on hope, love or any fraction of it.
You don't have to love "those people", most of them wouldn't know how to act, running away when you approach like some feral cat.
In fact you can even dislike them. They know they smell bad, that their cloths are dirty and their hair is matted.
But keep in mind; It might not be their fault!
Just don't let someone starve, or freeze to death when the inconvenience it will cause you is just that...
An inconvenience.
And maybe something as simple as being considerate, really is the first step to learning how
to love without judgement.
Just my thoughts.
Your Sibling
Only Onus
